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Solitude ain’t no matter

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Who exactly is a recluse? Rephrased, what can one do to be called a recluse? The conventional definition is “someone in isolation who hides away from the attention of the public, a person who lives in solitude, i.e. seclusion from intercourse with the world.”

This can be by choice like that made the 9th C Greek monk Simeon of Trier who led his life at the Roman gate Porta Nigra, enclosed in a cell high in the gate tower, ‘dead and buried to the world’ for his love of God. It can also be “due to psychological reasons: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, apathy, an autism spectrum disorder, a phobia, schizoid personality type, or avoidance personality disorder.”

However, there is another kind that does not seclude itself from the world but which, put politely, enjoys its space. Street-versed put, they don’t like “porridge on their clothes.” Call them loners or free spirits maybe? They are not hermits or anchorites and would even die in monastic living.

I think I’m one of this latter kind. I enjoy my space. I find peace and relaxation in solitude. I take my lectures from the back-bench. I go to movie houses alone. I can travel alone, take walks alone; do much just alone. Being solitary is not a bother. It’s not scary. It’s therapeutic. It’s just peaceful.

That said, such kind of a person is not shy. He/she is not a walk over. He/She [aargh…I can’t keep on doing the /. I’ll use ‘she’…alone] is not quiet but rather talks when necessary. She is not boring while in the right team. She is not a snob. She enjoys company when it presents itself. She is funny. She is psychologically OK. Nothing is the matter. She is happy. She loves the earth and the progeny of the Almighty Father.

A solitary person will be labeled nutty or mad or deranged or disturbed or worse, snobbish or worst, all this. This is because loners are very misunderstood human beings. They often get mistaken identity tags. You cannot decode them on the first day or the second or the third. They are well wrapped packages and you need time to uncover them. Most likely they will be intelligent, humorous and bloggers or writers. Sorry, not all bloggers, but a good number of them.

I said bloggers because I read so many blogs by loners and some by certifiable recluses. They interface with the world through their writings. That’s the way they shine their torches into the world. They empty their appreciation of their world experiences into their writings. They put it on paper or screen because that is how they find it better expressed. They don’t need feedback. They just need to put it across. They observe a lot. A whole lot.


Written by coldturkey

December 8, 2010 at 11:10 PM

Posted in Mind popping

6 Responses

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  1. A perfect description of me… I love solitude…


    December 9, 2010 at 10:08 AM

  2. am all for a lil’bit of solitude,peace and quiet…when i can watch people,to really see them…jus sitting back and not talking at all…however, when i begin to hear crickets & echos…i know it’s time to break the bubble 🙂


    December 11, 2010 at 10:27 AM

  3. @Shee, caught you 🙂
    @yellasoul, then you are the good sane loner. I don’t mind crickets as long as there’s fire to cook them up.

    Cold Turkey

    December 11, 2010 at 8:21 PM

  4. beautifully put…i’m most comfie with solitude too and will prefer to be the listener of what is said and the unsaid at any social setting…its more fun that way… sadly,most people do not get it and those who do and love me anyways, i call friends…


    December 15, 2010 at 3:16 PM

  5. Moi aussi. I don’t mind a good dose of solitude. It used to bother me, I thought i should be ‘out there being seen/heard’ but nowadays i treasure the moments when i can be all by myself.

    Mwari Wa David

    December 16, 2010 at 1:37 PM

  6. this is me! all of it!

    Cheruto Kosgey

    December 7, 2015 at 9:38 PM

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