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Losing my mother

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The passing on of our mother on December 16th, was too soon. This after 2 months of illness and I month of her being bedridden, at which time we were like zombies; less sleep and mighty anxiety. The reality is that such things happen and what you can do is to bear though very hurtful. There are all the expected whys and ifs but I’m not dwelling on that at all. They do invade the mind but I won’t delve into them.

One thing: I’m amazed at how we’ve held on; my younger bro, my dad and I. You see, it is a small family and we’re quite tight. The loss was “audibly” felt. My dad and bro cried on that Dec 16th morning. I cried on funeral day. We huddled together and my dad thanked God for her life, then the nurse took us to where she lay. I think that spirit of acceptance that it had happened calmed us to today and will in days to come.

My dad stood by my mother like a man should. Carrying, cleaning, encouraging and praying with her every single day, spending longer hours in the hospital than at home. Another thing I’m grateful for is friends. True friends are there indeed and many than thought. This is for sure.

The funeral was on Wednesday 23rd. What a Christmas! We’ve been against odds strong, though, which I really thank God for. For now it’s back to life à la Jack Sully.


Written by coldturkey

December 29, 2009 at 1:46 PM

Posted in réalité

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  1. Deepest condolences.


    December 30, 2009 at 11:20 AM

  2. Cheers my brother.

    Cold Turkey

    December 30, 2009 at 12:40 PM

  3. The loss of loved one is the deepest kind of pain. I am still reeling in agony from losing one of my best friends. So I know that saying ‘I’m sorry’ hardly makes the pain less. But you will survive, and live to honor her memory. My mum read me this scripture and it helped Revelation 21:1-5. I don’t know if you are Christian or not, but that scripture comforted me. I cried though, I cried until I thought I could not cry anymore. That was good too.

    She Blossoms...

    January 12, 2010 at 4:13 PM

  4. Find strength for your friend’s loss. Thanks for your words and the verse; I just looked it up. God’s peace to you.

    Cold Turkey

    January 13, 2010 at 9:35 AM

  5. Ur comment led me to ur profile, to this article which is very moving. Keep up the strength, long live the memory of your mom. Peace.


    January 19, 2010 at 12:22 PM

  6. Thank God for mothers… and for sons like you who love and live to honour them.


    March 18, 2010 at 10:32 AM

  7. To life dude, I will always cherish the days she called me son and cheered me on through life….she was a mother to me and many others, I will always be here for you small bro.


    June 15, 2010 at 9:18 AM

  8. She rests in eternal peace…and your strength has moved me…


    June 6, 2012 at 12:47 PM

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